The Importance of An Accurate Signal Recognitions System in Hypnosis

There are signs and signals that surround all of us everyday. Some of those signals come from people and others come from objects. There are signals that are concrete. These signals tell us when it is okay to cross the street, when to eat and when we should be sleepy.
There are also signals all around us that are not as obvious; an innocent flirtation, needs and feelings within others they need met and the signals of trance. It is true there are people around you everyday falling in and out of trances. Many times people do not realize the signals that are coming from those in trance.
At the beginning of hypnosis it is vital that you learn to recognize these signals. But before you can easily spot signals coming from others you must first teach yourself a few things.
You need to learn to see the world as it is. Plain and simple. Most people view the world as they want it to be. If you can learn to view things as they actually are you will be opening your mind to the truth of the world. When we see things the way in which we believe, or want to believe, things are we are deceiving ourselves.
As humans we are accustomed to seeing what we expect. We filter out what we don’t want and view the world, our lives and the lives of others in skewed terms. In order to see things as they truly are there are two things you must do for yourself.
The first is to recognize what is actually out there, whether you are viewing the world or your front yard. Keep your view simple and true, factual.
The second thing you need to do is to learn to recognize the signals that come when you are successful in a thing. Look for the signals that tell you are being successful in whatever it is that you are doing.
After you have learned to open your mind and do these two things successfully on a consistent basis you will be able to attune your ‘accurate signal recognition’ even further.
Milton Erickson was practiced and precise in his accurate signal recognition. Erickson was a leading psychiatrist, born in the early 1900’s. He specialized in medical hypnosis and family therapy. Erickson believed as many hypnotists do today that the unconscious was completely separate from the conscious. This included that the unconscious mind possessed its own awareness, interests, responses and learning abilities.
Milton Erickson was so precise in his recognition of signals that he could tell things about a person that they perhaps had only discovered moments earlier. He used his keen sense of signal recognition as he closely watched people and noticed things others would never see.
Erickson could tell a woman was expecting a child in the first weeks of pregnancy just by the tilt of her hips and movement of her hairline. When a woman is pregnant these things change in very small ways. The hair line moves by fractions, so little unless you were keen to the idea you would never notice. There are also changes within the body that affect the pelvis and its structure.
Erickson’s ability to read signals was so attuned he could read signals from subjects that other doctors never even realized. Once a woman visited him and was very skeptical about seeing yet another psychiatrist because no other psychiatrist had recognized her dilemma as of yet. Erickson told her immediately that he needed to know how long she had been a woman for.
He could tell simply from the signals she was sending out that she was really a man. Her body language was that of a girls who had not yet figured out how to work around new breasts. She would bump them as she moved her arms and gestured with her hands. Many people would just attribute this small signal as something that happens when one is not comfortable in their body. Or many may not have even noticed it at all, depending on the size of her chest I am sure.
Milton Erickson was noted for his signal recognition and it was fundamental in his success as a hypnotist. He knew, as you need to know now, that the smallest signals a person gives off can send a large amount of information your way.
Noticing changes in your subjects and the people around you is an important skill to perfect. Acute visual recognition can show you changes in the smallest detail. These changes and details are very important.
As you learn more about hypnosis and signal recognition systems it is important to focus on and develop them for yourself. This will aid you greatly in seeing the signals that someone is entering trance. It will also help in showing you when people are responding to your ideas and suggestions in the ways you want them to.
Signal recognition systems are a key tool in hypnosis. They can tell you volumes about a person once you learn to recognize and read the signals properly.
After all it is always good to know when a woman is actually a man, and if signal recognition can help you here it can more than likely help you any where.

How to Create Irresistible Curiosity With Rapport Hooks Using Hypnosis

Rapport is a key skill that you will need to master to be a successful hypnotist. Without rapport your subject will not be open to your hypnotic suggestions and communications.
Rapport is the harmonious relationship that you share with people. In this relationship you understand and relate to people’s feelings, ideas as well as communicate them well with one another. Everyone does this everyday with the different relationships they share with family, friends and co-workers.
In order to build a strong and wide rapport you will need to practice and perfect certain skills. Rapport in normal circumstances can often come easily. Think of how easily you share your life with a spouse or your best friend. The rapport here is focused and good, it comes easily and casually.
However hypnosis is not a normal or casual relationship. A deep amount of comfort, trust and familiarity must be established before you can reach your goals with a hypnotic subject. Remember they are going to let you into their mind this is not a place you open to just a perfect stranger.
As you are learning hypnosis you will want to focus on advanced strategies for building rapport. Creating and building on ‘rapport hooks’ is a great skill that will get other people to build rapport with you. Rapport hooks are going to do the work of drawing your subject into you as you get acquainted.
Rapport hooks are developed in a way that will keep people coming back to you to build on the relationship. It causes people to work hard and value the relationships they are building. If a person feels that they are working hard to build something they will also continue to work to maintain the past success they have had.
When you put rapport hooks into action, they will keep the person coming back for more information. The hooks will get your subject to keep asking questions, and coming back to fill in the informational gaps in you are purposefully leaving in your stories.
One way to get a person to keep coming back for that information is to give them small pieces of information that may not be complete. Leave questions in their mind as you tell stories. Give a casual tone, but leave what, why and how open for your subject to dig with.
The key here is to avoid forcing information on to them. Get your subject interested but leave your topics open by adding suspense and unfinished information.
For example, if you are telling a story about a place you visited, use the name of the country but give no specifics about where you went. Tell them the scenery is beautiful but let them ask about the region or sites you saw. Let them probe for these answers. You can do this with almost any topic.
While you are talking remember to use a casual tone and present the information in a way that inclines them to ask for more. If your subject’s curiosity is peaked they will be inclined to want to know more to the point of asking you.
In this manner you are elegantly giving them a good story and drawing them in as well. The more curiosity and interest the person has the more questions they will ask. Asking you questions is subconsciously earning them the right to the information and they begin to feel it is more important.
When you use rapport hooks it will also help you with fractionate rapport. Fractionate rapport happens when you giving rapport then consciously taking it away.
Give your subject your full attention for a while, then, distract yourself. Getting casually distracted by looking around or engaging your attention elsewhere will cause the subject to re-engage you. If the person does re-engage you then you are on board with the beginnings of a foundation for an advanced rapport.
Again this is causing the person to work for your attention. You give it, and then take your attention away. They then have to work to get it back. This makes the relationship more valued yet again because it is not being forced upon them. They are asking for it and earning it.
When using these advanced rapport building skills you will successfully push your rapport further, faster than normal. The more push and pull you involve in your conversations the quicker and deeper your rapport will go.
These skills will take your relationship to higher levels of comfort and trust quickly so a good and wide enough rapport is set to continue. Once this is founded and put into place you will be able to begin to put your subject into trance and begin the real work of hypnosis.

The Role Of Hypnotic Rapport In Hypnosis

Hypnosis is a deep and complicated process where the hypnotist and subject must have a wide rapport to support. When you participate in conducting a hypnotic trance your unconscious will be opened to them. Because of this it is important to have the experience you wish them to partake in at the forefront of your mind when starting the rapport.

Rapport is not a term generated just for use in hypnosis. It happens with everyone you come into conversational contact with. And the rapport you develop with your subjects is instrumental in conducting successful conversational hypnosis.

Hypnosis is anything but a casual relationship between two people. It is a deep connection that must be supported with good rapport. Anything you feel will unconsciously be projected upon the person you are trying to hypnotize. Because of this it is paramount that you learn to take your rapport skills out of the range of normal and beyond.

Hypnotic rapport is a time tested relationship. It has been present since people have been in existence. It is not fully understood and may never be, but it is very powerful.

Rapport is powerful in the sense that anytime a person around you experiences a trance they will inevitably take on a deeper connection with you and your unconscious mind. This deepens the trust between the participants and offers a sense of comfort in your company.

Going first, or ‘go first’ concept is an important one to become highly familiar with. In ‘go first’ you as the hypnotist must first enter the environment and experience you want your subject to have.

The reason you need to enter the experience before your hypnotic subject is so they will pick that experience up from your subconscious as they are in trance. Because every time a person goes into trance around you they develop an unconscious connection with you, if you have the experience at the forefront of your mind they will bring it back with them after the hypnosis is concluded.

As you begin to make hypnotic connections with other people you will be unconsciously exploring their mind as they will be making a connection with your unconscious as well. This is a powerful part of hypnosis. It allows each person to explore thoughts and ideas they never knew they had until that precise moment.

An example of this is prevalent in our everyday lives. We have all met people that we have a difficult time connecting with. You may have the same conversations over and over with little success in a real connection. It may seem that there is some sort of barrier up between the two of you. You never quite get past the small talk questions because you are not comfortable enough to advance into a deeper relationship.

This relationship is skewed because on an unconscious level these people are sub-communicating their sense of distrust and non ability to be comfortable around you. This atmosphere within in a person you are trying to connect with will shut down your thoughts and ideas. This will happen even before those thoughts and ideas have even had a chance to properly develop and come to your conscious.

On the other hand you probably meet people that you seem to have an instant connection with. In these situations it can seem that the thoughts and ideas are flowing from you endlessly. Ideas you never even realized you had come easily and seamlessly carry your listener. You are charismatic with these people, your ideas are good, and they come out well.

Split personality? No.

This is the way most people work. Those who are confident, comfortable and trusting in themselves often send out unconscious signals to others that produce the same effect in others. People who are not sure of themselves or comfortable will unconsciously cut off successful communications before they have had a chance to even try.

In hypnosis you will want to have the effect of the second situation. If you have a good rapport with your subjects and they feel comfortable and trusting around you they will be able to easily open up to you. You can aid in this process by making the mental environment even more comfortable by using the ‘go first’ method in hypnosis.

It is important to remember that hypnosis is no casual relationship. You want your clients and the people around you to feel as if they have known you for years and can open up to you anywhere.

Developing and instant rapport with a complete stranger is a skill that will attribute to your success as a hypnotist. This is established through good rapport. Good rapport can be established through different methods such as the ‘go first’ method.

The 3 Worst Mistakes Hypnotists Make in Building Rapport

When building a rapport with other people there are various mistakes that can be detrimental to the developing relationship. Three of the most common mistakes made when building rapport are trying too hard, being too nice and wanting something too much. All of these are easily remedied as are the three worst mistakes you can make when building a rapport with people. The key is being able to recognize the mistake and know the solution.

When refining the skill of building rapport the first of three detrimental mistakes you can make is to show a lack of genuine interest. This is shown through signals given off by body language.

When you are focused and genuinely interested in what another person is saying your body responds in ways others pick up on a subconscious level. These signals range from a change in body language and pupil dilation to your actual focusing signals.

If you are bored or showing disinterest people will often respond by turning off. They may show you that they are annoyed with you or simply lose interest as well. Two people having a conversation where neither is interested will damage rapport to say the least.

There are two solutions to this first problem. One is the idea of ‘tracking back’. Track back is similar to active listening. In track back you repeat the same words back to the speaker, in the same language they used. This shows you are interested, keeps your mind on track and clarifies what is being discussed.

You can also apply a track back frame in this skill. This is simply a set of words that frame the exact phrase you are repeating back. “So what you’re saying is…”

Active listening is different in that you repeat back what the speaker has said using your own words. The dilemma with this is that when you change the words and language you will often change the emotional meaning and tone of the words.

All language has a neurological effect on people and when you change the emotional meaning of a phrase you can accidentally change the entire meaning. If you change or lose the meaning of what your speaker is saying it may appear that you weren’t listening at all. Again creating the idea that you are disinterested in your speaker’s thoughts and ideas.

The other solution to this problem is to take the advice of Carl Rogers. Rogers was a great psychologist in the early 1900’s. Carl Rogers said that you should always have a high regard for the other person.

No matter what you think of them under other circumstances, if you are trying to build a lasting rapport you must find a way to convince yourself 100% what they are saying is worthy of respect.

When you accomplish this you will accomplish the task of opening up your speaker. You are saying with your body and subconscious signals that they will not be criticized or attacked; you are in a safe place. In order to develop rapport your subject needs to feel safe in order to share feelings and ideas with you.

The next horrible mistake you can make while trying to build rapport is to play the wrong role within a relationship. When two people are building rapport their relationship can fluctuate.

There are three different roles you can take on in every relationship you are creating. These consist of a high status, low status and equal status. This has nothing to do with your annual income it is merely a place within a relationship. For example an instructor usually has the high status in interaction with a student, and the student has the lower status.

Now it seems that status would naturally fall into place within conversation, right? The problem with this is that there are people who are unable to take on different status themselves. They need to be led into a new status.

If you are dealing with a person who only likes to be in a high status and you attempt to take away their role for yourself they will not be comfortable. In fact this will usually result in them disliking you and distrusting you.

You must learn to be a flexible communicator. If you have the ability to take on whatever status is necessary you will be able to open communication with anyone and start a rapport. Once you have done this you can slowly change your levels as they follow your lead and adapt to you.

Keep in mind the ‘pacing and leading’ principal here. You can only travel through the different status roles as quickly as your subject will comfortably follow.

The final vital mistake you can make in your rapport building is to neglect a wide rapport and build only a deep rapport. A deep rapport is when you base your entire interaction with a person on one subject, interest or environment. This type of rapport will get you deep in that area alone quickly.

It is in your better interest to have a wide rapport so people can relate to you on many different levels. A wide rapport gives a person many different experiences of you in many different environments, interests and subjects.

This is important as it does not limit you. Your subject can feel comfortable talking with you in many places about many different ideas, feelings and thoughts.

There are two ways to create wide rapport. One is to meet in different locations to conduct your interactions. This could be enjoyable but time consuming. The other is to develop wide rapport through story telling.

Story telling offers you an endless amount of places, topics, themes and ideas you can open your subject up to. The more sense of your complete personality they have the more comfortable they will be in building rapport.

As you continue to talk about different topics your subject will eventually be willing to open up to you about anything. There are many different techniques and uses for story telling that you will learn throughout your hypnosis training.

Now that you are aware of the common mistakes and pitfalls of building rapport you can use the simple solutions provided to refine your skills. Always keep in mind that the better your rapport building skills the better you will be in the act of hypnosis.

Now go forth and build elegant and beautiful rapport with everyone you know.

3 Most Common Mistakes Hypnotist Make in Building Rapport

Building rapport as a hypnotist is very important. As you improve your rapport skills you will be improving your overall skill as a hypnotist. In saying that it is important to be aware of the common mistakes made in building rapport.
The ability to have great rapport with your subjects is one of the first tools you will encounter needing as a hypnotist. Common mistakes made in this area are hard to identify as ‘mistakes’ unless you are aware of what they are.
The first most common mistake made is simply trying to be too nice. Of course you should be nice to people. But there is a point in time in certain relationships when the line must be drawn.
In order to develop a deep rapport with people you need to have full communication. This means that everything that needs to be said must be said, even if it is unpleasant. Not having full communication can disable you from sharing important thoughts, ideas and feelings.
The basic rule to follow here is to be nice but not at the expense of real communication. Say what needs to be said. If you do not the rapport will break down and a barrier will start to go up.
Most people have experienced one end or the other of trying to be too nice. One example is we are often too busy with politeness to show our true selves.
The other end of the spectrum is we encounter people who are trying too hard to be nice to us. Either way you look at it, a wall is constructed and these people remain casual acquaintances. We often have the same exact conversations with these people and never truly build a lasting rapport with them because there is no real communication happening.
The second mistake that is often made when attempting to build rapport is trying too hard. Yes this is closely related to the first mistake. When we try too hard we send signals of desperation. It shows that we are too eager to please or desperate for company.
No one likes to be surrounded with desperate people. The air of desperation often causes those around it to feel obligated or under a lot of pressure. Both of these feelings can completely shut down communication.
Trying too hard is a mistake that can lead to the “Law of Reversed Effect”. The “Law of Reversed Effect” means the harder you try, the more likely you will fail. This is because you are actually interfering with the unconscious process.
When you try too hard you are not falling into a gentle rhythm where rapport is produced you are trying to force a relationship that is not ready yet. Maintaining a sense of what needs to happen to create rapport is essential to your success.
Once you recognize what needs to happen you should let your unconscious take over and implement the steps itself. ‘Instant rapport technique’ will help with this later in another article.
The third mistake that is common in hypnosis is to want something from someone too much. This mistake is again closely related to the first two mistakes.
When we want something too much we often become pushy and overwhelming, especially so to the subconscious. Once an individual has pushed too much their counterpart will back off or become disinterested. Salesmen encounter this often.
There is a solution for this. ‘Fractionating rapport’ will help you to pace yourself in the amount of intimacy you seek. In fractionation you work on building a little rapport and then leave it alone for a while. Let the subject come and re-engage you. Each time you repeat the process you will be digging deeper and deeper into a comfort zone and building a strong rapport with the person.
This technique keep people in their comfort zones, and you are only stretching that zone a little each time you go through the motions. Soon conversation, give and take, push and pull will become a natural and familiar habit.
Being too nice to people, trying too hard and wanting something too much, all have simple solutions to help you become successful.
If you are being too nice to your subjects, stop and remember there is a point at which you must stop being nice to save the rapport.
If you are trying too hard with your subjects implement the ‘instant rapport technique’. This will allow the unconscious to send the normal rapport signals to you through your subject.
And if you want something too much, stop doing it and use fractionation. Soon over a small amount of time you will have built many steps to great rapport.
Being aware of these three common mistakes in building rapport will help you to not only avoid them but to improve you hypnosis skills further.

The Dark Side Of Hypnosis

We have all enjoyed a good story about the ‘dark side of hypnosis’, a suspenseful tale of assassination, murder, love gone wrong or revenge. These are common entertainments in the world of tall tales we thrive within.
The ‘dark side of hypnosis’ is a common theme among books, movies and television, but is there truly a ‘dark side’ of hypnosis? In a way there is, however the ‘dark side’ of hypnosis is much more common and mundane than the entertainment industry would lead you to believe.
In fact the entertainment industry is much a part of the ‘dark side’ of hypnosis as any other means in our society. As we have learned hypnosis is a natural and common occurrence in our everyday lives. For the most part we are constantly flowing in and out of hypnotic trances daily without realization of them.
Many times we are hypnotized quite by accident and these instances are generally harmless and well intentioned. Other times trances and hypnosis is projected upon us very purposefully, designed to drive you to buy, sell or do something you may not normally desire to do.
The main culprits of purposeful hypnosis that you may not be aware of are the media, news, government, advertising, post as well as other people’s opinions. If you take a moment to think back to a time when there was no television, you will often picture a farm family with no more possessions than they need, maybe a candle burning for light and a fire to cook food by.
Yet happy in the world they have created for themselves without the influence of a television constantly projecting the ‘needs’ of everyday life. If you compare this to today’s home life where most televisions are on at almost every hour of the day, a very different reality takes place.
We are being influenced everyday by thousands of messages targeted directly to persuade us to purchase bigger, nicer, better, more convenient items. GPS takes the place of maps, disposable diapers instead of cloth and TiVo giving you the ability to never miss a single hypnotic message on TV.
Honestly, I have yet to see a Swifter in a museum or on an episode of Little House on the Prairie. Most advertising is created very purposefully, their objective and business is to influence you to buy an item, one you may be persuaded to think you need.
This is an example of the true, as un-ominous as it may sound, dark side to hypnosis. In being persuaded to buy a new car, when our current vehicle runs fine and may only need a good washing, we are not improving the self from within, we are using a material object to make ourselves feel better about our status in life.
The news is just as abusive in its power to influence our lives, news is no longer about bringing new happening events into our lives as it is now about driving you to watch the news.
News by definition is supposed to report recent events, intelligence and information. However I am sure you realize by now the news is about catching our interests, what will bring us in to watch, bad news; murder, war, rape, financial instability, disease; the list is endless.
Good news would be much too repetitive and boring day after day; the sun rose, Joe had a great day at work and his wife managed to stay sane while watching their four children. The story you will hear on the news however is Joe went to work, there was a terrorist attack and his wife could no longer manage the children so she drown them in the bath tub.
The danger of this dark side of hypnosis is that it can often create a false impression of the world we live in; sure it is important to know when bad things happen and to educate yourself to prevent them.
What is dangerous is to think that everyday the ‘news’ is all that is happening in our world. Joe and his family above definitely had a bad day no doubt about it, but there were millions and millions of other families that had perfectly normal happy days as well; little Jimmy got an A, Sally learned to do a cartwheel, mom kept the grocery bill under $300.00 and dad experienced a rewarding day at work and came home an hour early.
The news no longer gives us an accurate representation of the world in which we live, because they to have been influenced to want more, better ratings and more achievement awards.
Hypnosis is a powerful thing and it is important to realize these dangers in a world that is so prevalent with hidden messages and suggestion. The mundane hypnotic dangers of our world come to us through the unconscious being influenced by our societies influences and suggestions.
How do you compensate and keep a sane and realistic view of life? Take action in your own mind, choose what you believe, pay attention to the things that are happening around you. The easiest way not to fall victim to the ‘dark side of hypnosis’ or break negative hypnotic messages is to think rationally, critically, and originally. Know who you are and do not be a stranger to skepticism.
Skepticism allows you to make your own decisions about what you take in as your true beliefs in life. Analyzing and ridiculing information will stand as a defense against negative messages and protect your mind from all around general pessimism.

What Hypnosis is NOT!

What Hypnosis is NOT!
We live in a world today that is full of perceptions, deceptions and misconceptions; it is often hard to tell one from the other when learning about new things.
Hypnosis is no stranger to an incredible amount of misconceptions, which is why it is important to really understand what those misconceptions are before assuming you can or cannot accomplish an objective through hypnosis. To really understand what hypnosis, or anything for that matter, is you must first understand all that it is not.
Once you know what hypnosis is not, everything you are left with is what hypnosis is.
Hypnosis has been given many false pretenses through the media, movies and just plain rumor. Hypnosis is not the ability to have complete domination over one’s mind, nor is it domination over another human being.
Another thing hypnosis is not is the ability to dominate another’s will. In a nutshell there is nothing about hypnosis that will lead you to complete domination of the world or human kind, so if this is your intention you should stop here and embark on a new path. The misconceptions that surround hypnosis can seem almost endless, which can often be the case when you consider any type of work that is associated with power over ones mind, thoughts, ideas and actions.
There are all kinds of associations and false ideas that are created when society acknowledges that power accompanies any way of life, this include hypnosis. For example money carries the connotation of power, however unless you are knowledgeable about how to be powerful with money you will fail.
The misconceptions about hypnosis must be wiped from the slate if you are serious about becoming an eloquent and masterful hypnotist.
The most common misconception in the field of hypnosis is that associated with power. Yes it is true that you will own a sort of power over the mind of your subjects, however this is not to say you will be able to control them completely.
Quite the opposite, part of hypnosis that few are aware of is that hypnosis is actually a type of negotiation with the unconscious mind. The unconscious mind is where you store your base of morals and ethics, and while you can as a hypnotist negotiate with the unconscious, you will never be able to change or control one’s morals and ethics.
The ethical code stored in the unconscious is unbreakable, these are the ideas, beliefs and moral standards that every person chooses to live their life by.
Among the common myths of hypnosis is the idea that one can completely control another, this is a myth simply because a person, whether in hypnotic trance or not, will only do what they want to do.
A good example of this is the common entertainment of stage hypnotists. Stage hypnotists will ask for volunteers from their audience, volunteers know on some level that they will be asked while in a hypnotic state to do things that they may not be aware that they are doing, they may even be embarrassing.
However on some level in their minds they are volunteering because they crave the attention that comes from being exhibitionists. The volunteers know they will be controlled by the hypnotist and they are consciously okay with that because it does not cause conflict with their moral code.
Another common myth about the art of hypnosis is that you can create a person so controlled that they will do your evil bidding, or acts that a hypnotist may not want to be personally responsible for. This again is untrue on the level that this will most often conflict with the moral standing and ethics of most people, therefore is not possible.
All this leaves us with what is left, which is what hypnosis really is. Conversational hypnosis is a way of healing and helping people to live better, healthier and happier lives through the art of language and suggestion. Hypnosis is used to its full potential when all parties are prospering from it; the ‘hypnotic messenger’ is a prime example of this.
The ‘hypnotic messenger’ was created when two hypnotists who were seeing the same subject and exchanged messages through the subject.
The messages were placed in the subconscious while the person was in a hypnotic state. As the subject visited each hypnotist and relayed the messages back and forth the hypnotists gave him free treatments as they felt a little shame in the amusing yet harmless game they were playing.
The subject continued to deliver the messages and everyone learned from the situation. The subject was receiving free therapy, and the hypnotists were not only amusing themselves but learning in the process.
This process worked because there was no moral rule being broken or violated in the process of message relay, subconsciously the subject was in agreement or had not conflict with the messages the hypnotists were sending back and forth.
On the other hand a client that is given the subconscious message to do harm to another will not carry out the suggestion because it will often conflict with their morals.
A subject that is asked to commit an act that is forbidden by their religion will not do so even if it is something that may seem harmless to many people, such as dancing. All suggestions and whether they are carried out or not depends on the moral code of the subject and whether or not they truly, ethically believe it is an acceptable behavior.
As a hypnotist it is important to focus on the fact that your goal is to help the mind fulfill what is important to that person, find and fulfill it’s purpose, in this the unconscious mind will do all that is necessary and possible to reach that goal and work with the hypnotist for complete success.

How Rapport Can Help Your Hypnosis

Rapport is a very valuable tool in the art of hypnosis. When learning hypnosis you need to really focus on this skill to create the best rapport possible with your subjects. This will help you on your way to becoming a great hypnotist.
A fundamental understanding of what makes up a good rapport between two people will help you to create the type of deepened relationships you require as a hypnotist. Rapport will build trust and comfort between you and your clients.
Rapport is the close relationship that you will develop with your subjects. It is a harmonious relationship including 2 or more people that understand one another’s feelings and ideas. Rapport also includes the important skill to be able to communicate those feelings and ideas thoroughly.
A fact about rapport is everyone knows how to develop rapport in a traditional sense. As long as you live outside of a cave, you do it daily.
You have a rapport with your co-workers, clients, friends and family. Those rapports may differ; in fact they should be different as the relationships with each are different. These rapports are the basis for the comfort you feel in interacting with these people on a regular basis.
Traditionally you build rapport with others by finding common interests, being nice, complimenting another as well as the similar experiences you share. These are all good ways to develop rapport on a normal basis.
Knowing how rapport works will help you in nearly every rapport building situation. Many do not understand how rapport works and use traditional rapport building means during inappropriate times. This can cause the relationship to backfire and sometimes fail completely.
When you are looking for rapport in any situation it is paramount that you remember that other people enjoy being around people like themselves.
The idea of experiencing a similar situation as another really works here. As this creates a connection on a deeper level, experiences are important to people. They are what make up our lives, a series of experiences linked together.
This creates a safe environment for most individuals to open up within.
To be able to create a safe and comfortable feeling for your subject is fundamental. After you have successfully started the rapport in this way the quicker you will be able to dig deeper into the relationship. This technique will make the relationship stronger and more trusting.
However, developing a rapport in hypnosis is anything but traditional. Here you are looking to achieve a deeper relationship much quicker than developing a normal rapport with an acquaintance.
Refining the development of traditional rapport can make this a valuable and powerful skill for your practice in hypnosis. Fractionating, wide rapport, story telling and ‘matching and mirroring are ways to build rapport with in conversational hypnosis.
Fractionate rapport helps your subject work to keep the rapport going. In this skill you give your attention full to the subject. Then take it away, get distracted.
If the person try’s to re-engage you, you have successfully founded the beginnings of a rapport. Then you start the process over again. Each time you give your complete focus the person will develop a deeper trust and comfort with you.
Another way to strengthen rapport is through wide rapport. Wide rapport is when you offer a subject many different experiences of you in different environments. This can be done literally by going to different locations to see one another. It can also be accomplished through story telling.
Story telling is a great way to build rapport with someone. Through the telling of stories you can create many different realities in which your subject becomes comfortable interacting with you. This builds trust and allows them to open up their mind to you more quickly. You can use story telling to develop a wide rapport with each person you meet.
Another way to improve rapport is to know how to use Matching and Mirroring. This is a technique that when done correctly, will help your subject feel more comfortable very quickly.
Matching and Mirroring is when you mimic the actions, body language, hand gestures and signals to create an unconscious connection with another person. This needs to happen on an unconscious level for it to work.
Once a person realizes on a conscious level that you are mirroring them it can cause them to feel annoyed and uncomfortable around you. They may even feel that you are making fun of them. This is not a good way to build rapport and can be damaging.
On the other hand if you are successful in matching and mirroring, and your subject is unaware on a conscious level that you are mimicking them it can build a very strong connection with the person quite quickly.
Remember this technique works only when it is unconsciously perceived, outside normal awareness.
Matching and mirroring studies have shown that when the participants included in the study did not recognize the imitation a strong rapport was created. Those who discovered they were being mimicked were less persuaded by the entire presentation, and the rapport was damaged.
The key here is to learn to match and mirror unconsciously. If you do this you will be more likely to go undiscovered by the other person you are interacting with.
Matching and mirroring is a powerful technique for building rapport and therefore a powerful technique in improving your hypnosis. However, it does have limitations and you should have other means for developing rapport as well.
Hypnosis is a very different form of communication. It requires different techniques to develop a substantial rapport that the relationship can firmly stand on. Building the rapport with your subject through fractionating, wide rapport, story telling and matching and mirroring is fundamental.